A Matter of Manners
I often say nothing when playing on ladder because I don't want to let myself fall in to saying too much, particularly if I'm having an especially frustrating session. Since taking this tact I've often been called bad mannered...for saying nothing? It's made me think and here are a few of my thoughts of the subject.
Time and again the internet proves that anonymity can bring out the worst in people. This happens in chat rooms, forums and during online video games as well as many other online forms of contact that people have across the world wide web. In some cases this is expected and just ignored as being a fact of life and that nothing can be done about it but in a lot of competitive video games there is a sort of 'code of conduct' that is expected of players. This does vary depending on the game as to exactly what is said or done but typically some sort of 'GLHF' at the start and 'GG' at the end is very common. This means that if a player or team does not say these they are considered bad mannered, but why?
Really, I know exactly why, and the best comparisons would be tapping gloves at the start of a boxing match or a handshake at the end of a football match. Not doing this is an obvious and rude gesture. But does this really apply in online games where you have no face-to-face contact with the other player? You're not actively shunning them like you would in person by not shaking hands, you're simply not volunteering your own.
All of this debate really started for me when someone called leaving a game without saying 'GG' a rage quit. Why? He says nothing and leaves the game that he's lost. I'd understand the 'rage' part if he hurled obscenities before departing but simply leaving a game shouldn't be seen as inherently bad mannered. I feel quite strongly about this for a number of reasons. Firstly, I often am so frustrated by a game, most often because I've played badly, that I just want to get out and don't say anything before leaving. I'm not angry at my opponent, I just want to end the game and move on. Secondly I very rarely initiate the opening 'GLHF' because I want to just concentrate on the game.
"glhf" - the esports' handshake
Well, that's not quite the truth. The main reason I prefer to say nothing all game is because if I do start typing I often become quite bad mannered to the other player should they do anything cheesy or if they get lucky somehow. I'm actively trying to not be bad mannered by saying nothing! This often comes across the wrong way to my opponent and they seem to anticipate cheese, even though I much prefer a longer game. Does anyone else have the same experience as me? I do wonder if there is a particular flaw to my logic but I really think that people take these sort of things as much more severe on ladder than they really are.
Now, before anyone gets the wrong end of the stick I'm almost entirely and specifically referring to laddering in my above statements. I believe that in tournaments, both professional and amateur, is where all of this does apply. Not saying 'GG' at the end of the game at the very least is not good for a pro to do over and over as it sets a bad example for the community. I would of course prefer if everyone always said 'GG' without exception, but I'm only going to get up in arms when those that are within the public eye leave negative impressions.
This was all a bit of rant I know but it's something that I don't think is debated enough, it's always seen as very black and white about whether something is or is not mannered but when you're just by yourself playing a game in your spare time I think you should be given a little leeway before you're crucified for being a rude individual.
Maybe that's just me...
CrazyGitar, Tuesday, 08/05/12 22:35
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